I am basically a very shy person, and I always feel very uncomfortable in strange places or in large groups, so a nightmare scenario for me is to have to address a large group of people in a strange place. I think this comes from a case of stage fright I got when I did a school play and had to give a monologue.
I stood on the stage, looked at all the people in the audience opened my mouth and my brain shut down…. I ran off the stage as quick as I could. The strange thing is.. I can still recite that damn monologue now from memory 40 years later!
Last Thursday at 9.45 am I stood up in front of 25 people in a Meeting room In Nottingham and presented my first ever seminar. The 2 day seminar covered Product Creation, List Building and Promoting your Products. I can’t remember ever enjoying “work” so much in my life.
Within about 5 minutes the fears and nervousness disapeared, the adrenaline kicked in and I was on a roll. Questions were asked and the answers just came without me even having to think about it, ideas that i’d never considered before sprung from the grey mush between my ears. I was having the time of my life… well apart from that night in the Ice bar in oslo….but thats another story.
I spent 2 very productive days with the nicest group of people you could ever meet, If I’d let my fear win I would never have had that experience. I learned a lot myself from the people who attended, never underestimate the power of sharing information with likeminded people
The really perverse thing about all this is that I arranged to present a 2nd seminar in Las Vegas before I knew if I could do it. Do you know what? I can’t wait, I wish it was next week.
(me presenting a seminar in vegas…I still can’t believe it!)
What aspects of you IM life, or even life in general do you fear?
I’ve had people tell me they were afraid to ask for help in case they were thought of as stupid.
I’ve had people write great products and not release them because they were afraid people wouldn’t like them
I’ve known people who wouldn’t send an email asking about a JV because they were afraid of the other person saying no.
Like most fears these are all irrational so what if they say no if you don’t ask it’s the same as a no.
Forget those irrational fears get out there and do something that you are afraid of.
Do it today address one fear that’s holding you back you’ll more than likely be surprised at the outcome.
Below is the group photo of the brave people who attended my first ever seminar, thanks guys , you don’t know how much I owe you!